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I have been trying to rescue a kitten from my yard this week. It reminds me of couples wanting love and connection from one another, and yet not able to quite get it.

The kitten, whom I have taken to calling Buster, is coming in closer, rolling and squirming on his back, and generally being so cute that I will continue to woo him.

Yet, so far, he won’t come in. His plaintive cries for food and his hunger is so evocative. He wants it so much. Touch. Love. Contact. Safety. Nurturing.

Just like us. We want love and connection, too, even desperately at times. And we won’t or can’t let ourselves have them, whether our partner is next to us on the couch, in bed, in the car, or someone we see at a short distance (or online).

So this week, I recommend that you let yourself be "rescued," just like this kitten needs. And rescuer: be kind and nurturing.

About this blog: I am a LMFT specializing in couples counseling and grief and have lived in Silicon Valley since 1969. I'm the president of Connect2 Marriage Counseling. I worked in high-tech at Apple,...