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Kitten/Couple Rescue

Uploaded: Jul 11, 2014
I have been trying to rescue a kitten from my yard this week. It reminds me of couples wanting love and connection from one another, and yet not able to quite get it.

The kitten, whom I have taken to calling Buster, is coming in closer, rolling and squirming on his back, and generally being so cute that I will continue to woo him.

Yet, so far, he won't come in. His plaintive cries for food and his hunger is so evocative. He wants it so much. Touch. Love. Contact. Safety. Nurturing.

Just like us. We want love and connection, too,even desperately at times. And we won't or can't let ourselves have them, whether our partner is next to us on the couch, in bed, in the car, or someone we see at a short distance (or online).

So this week, I recommend that you let yourself be "rescued," just like this kitten needs. And rescuer: be kind and nurturing.

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Posted by Cat Lover, a resident of South of Midtown,
on Jul 15, 2014 at 3:50 pm

If you want to try to grab the kitten, try FOOD. Many years ago I rescued five feral kittens living in our yard in Menlo Park, one by one, by luring them closer and closer with bits of cat kibble, until I could grab them. (Note: This mostly took place in the middle of the night when they were frolicking on our patio, and I hid behind a screen door.) We kept one, found a home for one, and took the rest to the Palo Alto Animal Shelter.

Be aware that if you manage to grab the kitten, it may well be covered with fleas, so don't take it anywhere in your house that could be easily infested until you have treated the kitten if necessary. (Our kittens went straight to a bathroom.) Also be aware that if you see one very young kitten, there may be more nearby in the "nest" being watched by Mom, so keep your eye out for them.

Take the kitten to an animal shelter to see if it has been microchipped, and thus already has an owner, and/or to see if anyone has reported it missing. (Also check Fogster and Craigslist for reports of missing pets.)

Various humane societies and animal-rescue groups also rent humane traps (put food at the end of a cage, animal goes in, door shuts behind it). I rescued mine all "by hand", but that's not necessary.


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Posted by Chandrama Anderson, a Mountain View Online blogger,
on Jul 16, 2014 at 10:46 am

Chandrama Anderson is a registered user.

Hi Cat Lover,
I did finally rescue "Buster" this morning, and got a little chomp for my efforts (not unlike how couples treat each other at times!). I did post in our neighborhood for him, with no reply. He's at the rescue getting fixed and chipped, and will come home with me. Not quite my plan, but then when is life up to our plans?


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Posted by Chandrama Anderson, a Mountain View Online blogger,
on Jul 16, 2014 at 5:01 pm

Chandrama Anderson is a registered user.

Buster turned out to be "Olive" and she's at Nine Lives in Redwood City. They have a fundraiser in early September; wine tasting and silent auction.


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